Remembering Niko

Remembering the journey

1992-2009

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“Thought of you with love today, but that is nothing new.
I thought about you yesterday, and days before that too.
I think of you in silence, I often speak your name.
All I have are memories and a picture in a frame.”

Thank you for visiting Niko’s site which will continue to be a work in progress. I have put this site together for two reasons. First and foremost,¬† as a tribute to my wonderful friend, Niko, to share his story and our journey. At the time of his death, nearly half of my life¬† had been spent loving this incredible being, and I don’t want to forget any memory of him. It has been a long road, getting used to life after Niko. The world is a little darker place, but my life is better for having known such a great love.

The second reason for this site didn’t become clear until mid 2010. Grief has taught me compassion. No one should feel alone when faced with a major loss, but often society and loved ones do not know how to react to grief – especially pet loss. It makes them uncomfortable or they just don’t understand. I want to extend a hand to all those faced with such heartache. I want them to feel they are not alone, and their feelings are normal. Validation can mean so much during a time of despair. It means a lot to me to know this site has helped comfort someone, if only in the smallest way.

Niko's most 'famous' portrait - taken in April 2008, under a weeping cherry tree

Just a Dog

by Richard Biby, Tulsa, Oklahoma

From time to time, people tell me, “lighten up, it’s just a dog,” or, “that’s a lot of money for just a dog.” They don’t understand the distance traveled, the time spent, or the costs involved for “just a dog.”

Some of my proudest moments have come about with “just a dog.” Many hours have passed and my only company was “just a dog,” but I did not once feel slighted.

Some of my saddest moments have been brought about by “just a dog,” and in those days of darkness, the gentle touch of “just a dog” gave me comfort and reason to overcome the day.

If you, too, think it’s “just a dog,” then you will probably understand phases like “just a friend,” “just a sunrise,” or “just a promise.” “Just a dog” brings into my life the very essence of friendship, trust, and pure unbridled joy. “Just a dog” brings out the compassion and patience that make me a better person.

Because of “just a dog” I will rise early, take long walks and look longingly to the future. So for me and folks like me, it’s not “just a dog” but an embodiment of all the hopes and dreams of the future, the fond memories of the past, and the pure joy of the moment.

“Just a dog” brings out what’s good in me and diverts my thoughts away from myself and the worries of the day.

I hope that someday they can understand that it’s not “just a dog” but the thing that gives me humanity and keeps me from being “just a human.”

So the next time you hear the phrase “just a dog.” just smile, because they “just don’t understand.”

Written by rememberingniko

February 3, 2010 at 3:39 pm

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